Author: Fay Ferris

  • Covid-19 Safety Plan

    The Fay Ferris Counselling Covid-19 safety plan is simple: There is absolutely no in person sessions. All sessions will be telephonic or online. This safety plan is in effect March 15, 2020 and is ongoing into the foreseeable future. Updated Jan 10, 2022.

  • Stop Procrastinating

    Stop Procrastinating: On Completing Complicated Goals By Fay Ferris Do you have difficulty completing complicated goals? If you have tried and failed to do any of the following, then you have experienced the difficulty of completing a complicated goal: 1) changing your lifestyle, 2) getting out of debt and starting to save, 3) improving a…

  • Resolutions, Goals and Actually Making Changes

    As the wheel of the year turns again and we have a New Year to look forward to, many people formulate New Year’s Resolutions. In this blog, I hope to provide a few ideas for actually making changes based on your New Year’s Resolutions and Goals.   In 2015, I accomplished more than most years,…

  • Tips for Resolving Compulsive Eating

    Tips for Resolving Compulsive Eating Compulsive Eating or Binge Eating is understood to be an Eating Disorder (it will probably be included in the next DSM) meaning that those struggling with the disorder will have a disordered eating pattern.  In short, CED/BED (Compulsive Eating Disorder or Binge Eating Disorder) is marked by eating an unreasonable…

  • Coping with Difficult Times and Crises

    Coping with Difficult Times and Crises When we are experiencing a sudden change in our lives it can be a very distressing time, but hopefully we can come through the time with added wisdom, more empathy, and a stronger sense of our resources and strengths. Here are some examples of common troubling times that people…

  • The Love Bank – Simple Concept to Improve Relationships

    The Love Bank – A simple concept to revolutionize your relationships I do a lot of marriage counselling and one of the first concepts  that I want my clients to understand is the Love Bank because of its usefulness and immediate applicability.  It’s a very simple concept quite widely used (I first learned about it…

  • When you’re Stumped, Try the Out of the Box Technique

    Out of the Box Technique:  Something to try when a problem has you stumped Oftentimes in life we run into a problem with a situation and/or a relationship and we feel stumped; not at all sure how to move forward and solve the problem.  We may even become despairing about the problem.  Here’s a very…

  • Anxiety, Anger, Control and Peace

    We humans often worry about bad things happening.  We experience anxiety, depression,  and anger symptoms and our behaviour will be such to try to avoid the bad thing or change the bad thing.   We may fret about another person’s health, about an earthquake hitting, or about an annoying co-worker or work policy.  All these things…

  • How To Change Beliefs that Aren’t Working for You

    How to Change Beliefs that Aren’t Working for You Often clients come to counselling with symptoms of depression, anxiety, and disordered eating. As we work together to understand what underlies the symptoms, we often discover simple and basically untrue beliefs. These beliefs were developed when they were younger (often as young as 3 years old)…

  • Your Self Worth is Not Equal to your Weight

    Your Self Worth is Not Equal to your Weight I’ve treated persons struggling with eating disorders, disordered eating , and weight issues for over a decade and  a common belief at the heart of these weight issues is that one’s own worth is connected to their weight.  If they weigh a large amount or they…